Tired of Failed Relationships?

The five stages of a relationship are the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love. But what after that?
What if you have traversed the stage of wholehearted love and you still think that the enormous and unconditional love you have given to the person was not worth it?
I’m sure a lot of people must have lived that phase, that phase is the beginning of a failed relationship. The sense that your relationship has become static, both of you know each other really well but deep down you need something fresh in life leads to mood swings and eventual breakup.
People have been trying to find out their true love but all they get is distress, anguish, sorrows, and heartbreaks. Then comes a point where the will to even try finding or trusting someone becomes dead as the faith and the belief to find a veracious person who is special and made for you no more exists.
The person becomes dead in the core. He probably won’t show it to the world but when he wants someone special in his life and after numerous relationships, all he gets is failure is what kills the person inside. One could not literally feel the heart, but when you are betrayed, you could feel your heart breaking into pieces.

One more failed relationship☹
Well, being in multiple relationships obviously urges you to compare your breakups. There being 2 kinds of breakups.
One where you end on good notes with your partner, your parting was mutual in some way where after hours of debate and fighting, you both agree to it and decide to be friends. In that scenario, you might not show it; but after a fine interval of time, you start missing your partner, you miss their existence, you miss the part of the day which was reserved for you two, and most importantly you miss the slice of a friend which you found in your partner to whom you could tell all your issues. But later on, you realise that even the most trusted person could lie, even the best friend could change, even the sweetest man could cheat, even the person you love the most could be gone. Sad to think, hard to accept, but this is reality.
Second, where you separate on a bad note, your partner probably doesn’t even want to see your face, the hatred has grown so much that after years of love and affection, you no more matter to him, and you’re just gone from his world. Things can get really hard in this case, especially when you have been involved in the relation not only physically but sensationally. People are generally not able to tolerate the mental breakdown and end up questioning their existence. Getting over the breakup is resistant and most of the time, people seek for physical comfort and end up with the first person who offers to comfort them. Subsequently, if one finds the true love, then the person who backed off would be hurt because you’re definitely going to get hurt when you see her loving someone else the same way she tried to love you.

Casual Relation: A way to fill the Void?
Quoting a friend- “Casual is better as you don’t get attached to the person emotionally, you could talk to him, maybe tell him about your day and get involved in a physical relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting the additional commitments so that even if the person dumps you, chances of getting hurt are less.” Hell yeah! Who doesn’t want that?
But, as a matter of fact, isn’t it a way of hiding your fondness for a person? You’re getting involved physically just to fill the void created in your life even after knowing that you want to be truly loved and taken care of. I can think of many reasons why people like the concept of casual relationships. Nobody wants to commit, they are scared, people like to explore other options while being in a relation, they don’t want to show their true feelings to the world, or they might have lost their true self in the rush to find true love. Reasons are infinite and so is the pain. But one should never forget that sex is a plus, people actually want to feel beautiful, wanted, loved, and appreciated. They want a mutual understanding, conversations, fun, and unconditional and pure love.
So, getting sick of failed relations is not so new and always remember that sunset is more colorful than sunrise. “Sometimes good things happen in goodbye”.